Okay, so I am going to invent this personal challenge to help me to overcome the frustrating habit of frittering my life away. Do you know what I mean? I make plans, set goals and intend with every fibre of my being to work towards them, at least a little every day. But do I? Do I heck! I usually spend the majority of my day responding to minor teenage ‘emergencies’, or baking less than nutritious goodies to eat (but they are delicious), or glued to some film or two, or sorting out paperwork or organising the fridge for the gazillionth time or…
It’s time to stop.
I don’t know about you, but having been blessed with this one beautiful life, I want to cherish it and fill it with the best of me, and make stuff, and help others to the best of my ability. Currently I’m not even coming close.
So, some ideas how I can reorient my focus towards that which I want to do:
- Get organised. Arrange your life so everything has a system. ‘A place for everything and everything in its place’ is not anal or controlling, but actually frees you up to live the life you’ve always dreamed of. A system for keeping your house clean and tidy, a system for blogging, a system for creating, a system for meals, a system for work, a system for paperwork etc. and stick to them. It will take time, but you will be better off in the long run.
- Write lists. But not lists just for the sake of it. Lists that you will actually use. The bullet journal is a fantastic way to plan your day-to-day life.
- Set a schedule for getting things done. A time for email, a time for browsing, a time for blogging etc. etc. A time for everything.
- Explore exactly what is important to you. What do you want to achieve? No matter how modest your goals, you do have them. Being in denial and telling yourself you like going with the flow, is really just saying you’re happy to be controlled by circumstance (an excuse for giving in to the fear of using your personal power – and you are powerful!).
- Set a new year’s resolution – ‘I hereby make this the year of self-discipline’. (Or a half way through the year resolution will do) Set goals and work on your integrity by determining to stick to them.
- Announcing your plans can help you hold yourself accountable. No matter that you’ve failed in the past. You may fail again, but after that, one day, if you keep going, you will succeed. Blog about your progress, it will inspire others and help keep you motivated and on track.
- Picture your ideal life. Write yourself a letter describing it. Who do you dream of being? Who would you spend your time with? What work would you be doing? How else would you spend your time? It is fun to dream, and your imagination is a magical tool that cannot work unless you put it to use.
- Identify your major distractions – for me this is baking, cleaning the fridge and watching films on Netflix. Nothing wrong with any of those things but when I’m not finding the time to do the things that really matter to me, they have become a problem.
- Identify those things you love that give your life meaning. The kinds of things you will remember when you’re too old and frail to get out of bed. Some ideas: playing with your children, walking by the river, writing that book, learning to draw, planting a garden, starting your own business, volunteering, creating your own recipes or learning new things.
- Don’t worry if you fail. I often feel like I am taking one step forward and two steps back, but if I get down and disheartened about it that is what will hold me back, not the failing itself. Failure is just an opportunity to correct your course and carry on. Don’t be a wimp.
- Once you’ve identified your goals, break them up into small manageable tasks to put on your to-do list and take action towards them. Every. Single. Day. Even if it is only one small thing toward your goal, that will give you the momentum you need to get going and keep going. If you fall off the horse get back on again.
- Know that it is never too late to change your life, no matter what your situation or the events of your past you can make a success of your life. It may not be in the way you at first expect, but you must start on the journey and the way will become clear as you go.
Do you have any more ideas to add to my list. It is not exhaustive, and I appreciate all the help I can get. Here’s to making dreams happen!