What is your true purpose in life?

P1030019 I made a list…

  • to connect with the sacred in nature
  • to love my children
  • to learn and grow and help others to learn and grow
  • to take time to slow, savour and appreciate this one life
  • to write and paint and connect with others through these mediums
  • to live a rich deep creative life and inspire others to the same
  • to listen to birdsong, smell flowers, taste fresh tomatoes from the vine and linger in fields, forests and on seashores
  • to focus less on the abstract and get up close and personal to the actual, the real, the individual, the unique
  • to reconnect with growing things, with wildflowers and our wild selves
  • to get in touch with the essence of life, our intuition, the heart that beats in nature in rhythm with our own
  • to bring together those who wish to live a more authentic life
  • to live the life of the wild wolf woman inside and open my heart to others to join me
  • to encourage healing with words, pictures, word pictures, senses, inspiration
  • to live every moment as precious and sacred and bring the disparate parts of life together
  • to live with integrity and balance.
  • to make things, to use my hands building, crafting, growing, tending, nurturing, drawing, making, painting, writing, knitting, sewing, mending
  • to cultivate an attitude of thankfulness, of grace and gentle caring
  • to see the lightness in the heavy and the heavy in the light
  • to take time every day to create and notice the little things
  • to work with nature to heal myself and others with nourishing whole foods, water and herbs
  • to connect with others in meaningful conversations
  • to let go of hurtful pasts and seek new beginnings and new relationships
  • to embrace the strong feminine and allow her to be seen in the world

… some lofty aspirations there, right?  😉

I think perhaps something that has been causing me problems is a cognitive dissonance between the person who wrote the above list – who comes from a more intuitional way of living – and a more rational me who wants to be seen as intelligent and worldly and fit in with the normal view of life… I don’t think this last me is really me at all, but rather the norms of society projected onto me. Maybe I could work towards letting go of that. When I think about and read through the list above, it feels good, it feels like me, it feels right.

In my own small world this fits and if I didn’t have to interact with others I would have no difficulty being this person. But I do have to interact with others and I am wary of expressing this part of myself. I sometimes feel like I am bleeding in front of people when I do this. It hurts and is uncomfortable. I feel their judgement. I feel embarrassed for expressing this more female way of being. This way of being is not thought highly of in our culture. A whole bunch of ‘shoulds’ assail me… I should be more clear, more certain, I should back up my words with facts and figures and references, I should be sensible and think more not feel more, but that is not how I want to live.

Last week I got caught up in the whole election extravaganza in this country. I feel strongly about certain policies, I voted, I followed the analysis… I was devastated with the result. And angry and frustrated and a whole lot of other things. All of this is a strong contrast to the person I want to be. The person who wrote the above list.

It made me think about how we make a difference, and I think that maybe politics is the reaction to things people do and how they live, not the cause. Real difference is made, I think, at a much smaller level. At the level of people, and actions, interactions, connections and words… real change happens in small moments every day in the way we speak, listen, take action, learn, grow, appreciate and care.

“Few will have the greatness to bend history itself, but each of us can work to change a small portion of events. It is from numberless diverse acts of courage and belief that human history is shaped. Each time a man stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring those ripples build a current which can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance.” 

~ Robert F. Kennedy

15 thoughts on “What is your true purpose in life?

  1. I don’t know if you’ve ever seen ‘The Last Samurai’, but the character Katsumoto had great wisdom that I love to remind myself of when I need it. I particularly love the line: “The perfect blossom is a rare thing. You could spend your life looking for one, and it would not be a wasted life.” As he dies he has the insight that “they are all perfect”.

    I love your purpose, and I don’t think that it’s a particularly feminine thing. When you start sharing the you you are, you’ll be surprised at many people like-minded folk there are. Like you, they’re probably dying to share.

    P.S. Also very disappointed by the election

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    1. Thank you for the wise words Safar, I love the quote. I hope you’re right about the ‘like-minded folk’. To be honest in everyday life I’ve not met people who share my views much… but then I’m not very vocal about them.


  2. Kim,
    In many ways you’re letting your INFJ personality type shine through, here.

    As for politics and politicians in today’s world. They are not that much different, from yesterday. Mostly it’s about the trough and how much can they gain. Anyone with the true purpose of serving their country? Forget it. You will always be disappointed. The vote can always be swayed.

    “Democracy is nothing more than mob rule, where 51% of the people may take away the rights of the other 49%.” ~ Thomas Jefferson.

    Democracy is easily manipulated.

    I’ve thought about this, in the past. I have it down to two things. Strip most of it away and it boils down to this.

    1] Self survival
    2] Procreation of the self, species. …. Which is a type of #1.

    I cannot, nor will, deny your list. Most of it is dear to myself, also. Yet in many ways, they are only frills around my list. Important to me/us, unfortunately not many share your /our ideals. It is a bit of curse, for us INFJ types. How few people would completely share our views?

    Lastly, For the last ten years, or so. I’ve always voted for the “Green” candidate. Yet I hold few illusions and I kinda’ hope they stay unelected? For once elected, the corruptions creep in. Although proportional representation, does seem to be. One of the better ways of governing?

    “Good people do not need laws telling them what to do and the bad just find ways around them”. ~ Plato.

    Cheers Jamie.

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    1. yes, I think I should like to go and live in Brighton (the only constituency a green candidate won) and then we should declare emancipation from the rest of Britain 😉 A little island of green in a sea of blue.

      I cannot stay angry for long, there is little to be gained from that. There is always hope to be found if we look hard enough for it. I’ve noticed the result seems to have galvanised a lot of people into greater determination to help with good causes and to speak out, which can never be a bad thing.

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  3. Hi Kim… As I read through your list, it reminded me of a ‘credo’ which was written for a group I belong to. It is concerned with following our true selves, living authentically. This can be very difficult in the face of societal pressures to ‘fit in.’ But I also believe that, as was mentioned, if we do the best we can, live our lives striving for authenticity, and seek to be an example for others, who look to those of us living quiet lives, working toward peace, and respect for Nature, we will touch the hearts of those who are ready to live like-minded ways. Each one of us can be an example of the principle from the Tao Te Ching, “be like ice about to melt.” That speaks of yielding, of living intuitively. It’s very empowering to live the way we want to live. Believe, I’m saying it’s easy, in the face of those who would have us all conform to something we are not.

    There are many of us out here. We find each other, and that gives us a stronger voice.

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    1. Thank you Fimnora, beautiful words. I do feel like I am always striving for authenticity but never really achieving it. Maybe it’s just some perfectionism I need to drop… need to tell myself I am doing okay, and not be so hard on myself. “be like ice about to melt” I like that… I must remember it.


  4. Lofty aspirations indeed, but why go for less? And to put them down so clearly is an achievement in itself. (I actually read this somewhere as a performance-enhancing trick: In every to-do list put “Make list” on top, so you can tick off one item right away…) – Seiously: The cognitive dissonance you describe I have been experiencing vividly, too (although rather male). I catch myself over and over again being this worldly, superficial person I detest when interacting with others, and part of my personal journey is to focus on being an individual in contact with other individuals instead of a persona interacting with society as a whole. I have abandoned any interest in politics (“show business for ugly people”, as a British cabinet minister once said). I stopped following the mainstream media and have discovered the world of weblogs where I find inspiring, sincere, and creative fellow human beings. I am quite impressed with your way of penning your thoughts and observations, by the way, and looking forward to every new post.


  5. What an excelled idea and what an excellent list. It’s making me think of doing something similar myself. I’m so fed up with myself and my own excuses of “I’ll get round to that one day soon…” and of course, that day will never come unless I make it… Thank you!


  6. Thank you for your comment Martin. I had forgotten about this list, it was good to read it again. I think I might write it out and read it regularly as a reminder. It is so easy to forget.

    I too am always berating myself for making excuses, though maybe we should not be too hard on ourselves? Take care 🙂

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